Akomolafe urges us to break those conventions held by the structures we live by, through breaking their sediments, their roots. It is to ask not to sit within the paradigm of humanity, because the idea of humanity within the confinements of societal structure has already revoked you from the possibility to be.
Inspired by Yoruba cosmology, Akomolafe invites us to not see the self as a centralized center of being, but rather as the ephemeral status we consist of, where experiences and events host us and not the other way around.
Here, the analogy of the candle comes into play.